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The Three C’s of Life

I read a quote today about the 3 C’s of life: Choices, Chances, and Changes. “You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.”

About a year ago, I made a choice to start blogging about my new life as an empty nester. I took a big chance in doing that, exposing my life and my thoughts to the outside world, but I also knew that this past year, and the coming one, and the next are going to be full of change for me, and it helps to share, to document, and to discuss.

The changes started a while ago, with launching kids and figuring out how to simplify my life. Some choices and some chances have now caught up with the realized and impending changes.

I wrote a blog last fall about the conundrum of choice, the difficulty surrounding making big, tough decisions. At that point, things were still rolling around in our heads, (mine and my husband’s). Over the past year, however, we have finally come to the conclusion that to live the rest of our lives the way WE want to, we need to move. Out of the big house. Away from the big mortgage. Onto new things. So we took a chance and put our house on the market about a month ago, with no defined place to go. Ummmm….scary? Yes. Risky? Yes. Comfortable? No!

I read another quote today that said “Patience is not about how long you can wait but on how you behave while waiting.” Let me tell you, I need a time out for bad behavior. I believe I also wrote a blog about patience, and I’m confessing right here that progress with that virtue has been s-l-o-w. My dad once said, “You should have a lot of patience because you haven’t used any yet.” Truer words have not been spoken.

We’re not the first people in the world to try to sell our house. And this isn’t our first rodeo either. In the past 28 years, my husband and I have moved seven times, but this one is by far the hardest. All the past moves were dictated by jobs, kids, and the needs of a growing family. This one is all about two people, Brian and me. What WE want, what WE need, how WE want to live. WHERE we want to live.

Answering those questions has not been easy. We’ve gone around and around about townhouse vs. house, neighborhood vs. urban. We’ve even tossed around rural. We think we now know what we want. And yet…there’s still that chance that we’ll decide wrong. We also know what we don’t want, and that is regret.

Now, though, we must wait it out. We must have faith as we go through the ups and downs of showing a house and not getting an offer, of keeping the house uber clean, and then saying, “wow, this IS a pretty nice house when it’s all cleaned up!” And the hope that the one house we really do want will be available and waiting for us…when we finally do get that offer.

So stay tuned…lots more change is on the way. More choices and more chances as well, no doubt. But as they say, if you’re not moving forward you are standing still. And I’m way too impatient for that…

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